Being a step parent is one of the most challenging roles you will ever encounter. Indeed, it is very difficult to love a child who is not your own and to follow rules surrounding the situation. However, there are still many ways to become a great step parent and here they are.
10. Don’t try to change the kids’ relationship with their parents.
Always remember that you are not there to replace the other parent. Let your step children know that you don’t have any intentions in replacing them and changing their relationships. You are simply there to supplement and that you are a blessing to them and them to you.
9. Never criticize the other parent.
There may be times that the other parent may be absent during special occasions. Never talk about them in a bad way especially in front of their children just so you can gain their love.
8. Don’t expect love right away.
Just like you, this transition phase is also difficult for them. But if you really show them genuine love, you will get what you deserve as well. Real love is always unconditional, always remember that.
7. Be supportive.
Your step children expect you to act as a parent and be supportive. Encourage them during times that they feel weak and support their endeavors in school and in their careers. You don’t have to be a stage parent, you just have to be there when they need you and criticize them in a healthy manner.
6. Spend time with them.
Nothing is more precious to your step children than your time. Sundays watching movies or Saturday nights cooking at home is already very important to them. This will immediately tell them that you are serious about being a parent to them.
5. Don’t stress yourself out.
Don’t feel bad or sad whenever there are times that your step children are aloof to you. This is just the way it is most especially in the beginning. The best thing to do is to take it slow and don’t be too hard on yourself. Forcing yourself to them will make the situation worse.
4. Invite them in your life as well.
As you spend time doing what they love, you should also invite them into your life so that they could get to know you better, too. Who knows, you might have a hobby both of you can share.
3. Don’t go into the child’s private space.
All of this is confusing for some step children. This is why it is important to respect their privacy and how they want to handle the situation. Besides, if you give them space, they will feel like you trust them enough.
2. Help plan the future.
You don’t need to go all out and decide what is best for the child but suggesting things here and there should do the trick. Always consult the real parents first.
1. Always remember that blood is not always thicker than water.
Even if these children are not related to you by blood, they are now your family. They deserve all the love, nurturing and care they can get from you so make sure you give it to them.