We often face situations where we want to say ‘no’, but due to some difficulties, cannot say that and end up doing something or giving consent unwillingly. At the moments, we just curse us for not being able to say ‘no’ straight on face as we all hate it to be manipulated. Here is a quick guideline for you who cannot say No in the fear of sounding rude or hurting the other person.
1. Be confident about your life and visions
Once you know what you want and don’t want from your life, career, relationships and dreams; it will be easy for you to say ‘no’ to anything that clashes with your priorities. Until you are not clear about these priorities, you will be confused about your opinion too.
2. What it takes to say ‘yes’?
What if you nod to the request of accompanying someone to a meeting or lending some money to your co-worker? Are these ‘yes’s going to affect your life or leisure time in some ways? There are people who often run out of time and never find free-time because they cannot say ‘no’.
3. Saying ‘no’ is not a punishable offense
In no way, saying ‘no’ can be an offense. So, at first, get rid of this weird notion. You are not giving your consent because there must be some reasons. The person expecting a ‘yes’ from you must understand that you may say ‘no’ too. But if he insists you further, you know that you have got the strongest reason to say ‘no’.
4. Choose a convenient medium
If you feel that you cannot say ‘no’ on face then choose a medium which you will be comfortable in. It can be SMS, chat or just an email or a call, pick the medium depending on the person and the relationship you share with him.
5. Keep it short and simple
Just be polite and say ‘no’ directly. No need to give an explanation, as you do not owe any explanation to a person who is asking you to do a favor.
6. Show respect
Don’t be harsh in saying ‘no’. Show enough respect to that person but again make it look like that you are truly helpless.
7. Offer alternative ways
If you have an alternative option in hand, offer it. May be, it’s a job offer and though you don’t need a change there is a friend of yours who is dying for a new job.
8. Put restrictions on accessing you
Sometimes we make us too much accessible to people who always ask for favors. In such cases, try to become a less available. Don’t reply instantly, don’t give your phone number to any person asking for it and don’t entertain every request you get.
9. Write down your points
While writing your points to say ‘no’, you will eventually find the right direction, words and valid points for your ‘no’.
10. Don’t reply
Nothing is like this. A much delayed reply and an absolutely no reply is equal to a clear ‘no’. So practice that.